Why New Year’s Resolutions Piss Me Off!
Ahh! It’s only the second working day in January and already my Facebook page is crammed with New Year’s quotes, “inspiration” for a new ‘me’ in 2018, words of advice about how to be better.
I should be slimmer, fitter, healthier, have more focus, be a better wife, schedule in more social time, work on my personal development more – blah blah blah.
Ergh – stop!
I’m writing this blog to say:
YOU ARE ENOUGH!
I am enough. We are all enough.
Of course we can always do more to help other people and the planet.
I’m not talking about that.
I’m talking about stopping beating ourselves up for not being enough.
We can be our own worst enemy sometimes and put so much pressure on ourselves. I learnt this lesson the hard way. Back in 2015 I burnt out big-style – and actually yes I helped some people, but I didn’t help myself. I was stressed out and run down. That isn’t good at all and can quite easily lead to burn out as I’m sure some of you will know.
Whilst I think that setting goals and challenging ourselves can be super-beneficial (I do this myself and as a coach, my whole way of working is about this), it’s also really important to stop and appreciate what we already have and already are. There’s so much pressure to always be a better version of ourselves and sometimes that can come across as disheartening and like we were a failure before we started all these new regimes.
So, how about instead of a new year’s resolution you do something different?
Stop, and be grateful for who you are already and what you already have.
Go and grab a pen and paper.
Write a list of your strengths. If it’s too hard, ask someone you trust to do it for you. Be confident in yourself and what you are right NOW.
Write a list of everything you are grateful for. Gratitude is really good for us. Being grateful help us to focus on the positives. Positive mind-set is very powerful. Research has shown it can even make you live longer.
Look at what you achieved last year, what you did that was great and what difference you made in the world. Make a list of all you achieved throughout the year. Big and small. Then celebrate!!
Go on, pat yourself on the back for being great. You are great. Be grateful for you in 2018.
To a 2018 that is happy, healthy and full of self-compassion.
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