Don’t live for the weekend
Let me ask you something…
- Are you just mundanely going through your daily life, working, sleeping and eating and waiting for the weekend?
- Does Friday morning bring you joy because you know there’s only a few more hours left until you can breathe easier, laugh more, have more fun, party, play with the kids, go on an adventure?
- Do Sunday nights have a tinge of heaviness because you know tomorrow is Monday and you’ll be back to the grind stone?
- Are you completely exhausted by Wednesday and can’t wait for a lie in or at least the chance to have a brew in peace?
In a nutshell: are you living for your weekend?
Ok, so I know there’s a lot of stuff going on in those statements. Work fulfilment and job satisfaction, work/life balance, general outlook on life, and levels of commitment to name just a few BUT the point of this blog is to show you that you don’t need to wait until the weekend to have fun (or actually live your life).
I work with a LOT of people who are time poor. They work full time. They have kids. They play taxi driver, chef, cleaner and social organiser when they are not working. They’re busy. We all are. But I believe busyness is a mindset thing, not a physical time thing.
How often do you tell yourself you’re too busy to meditate? You don’t have enough time to sign up to that art class? You can’t switch off mid-week because you’ve got to stay on it to get through until Friday. You’ll do XYZ at the weekend when you have the time.
We all wake up with the same amount of time. It’s fresh every single morning. We all have exactly 86,400 seconds every single day in fact. You can CHOOSE what you do with it.
Let’s assume we have to work.
Let’s also assume we have to sleep.
Ok, and there’s also kids/pets/other commitments that some of you will have and some of you won’t have.
You also HAVE to stay alive. You have to manage your stress. You have to prevent work overload, burn out and overwhelm. You have to do that because if you don’t you’ll crash and then nothing will get done at all. You really don’t want to be in that place. Trust me.
Everything I teach is about self-care, wellbeing and putting yourself first. It’s not selfish, it’s absolutely essential.
Let me share with you the technique I use to make sure I’m living a life I love. It not only means I enjoy my mid-week, but it means I relax too, I prevent burn out, I have fun and release endorphins, I connect with myself and with others, I get fresh air in my lungs and I enhance my positive outlook on life because I’m in an all-round better place.
The Mid-Week Adventure
A few months ago I was going through a rocky patch as we all do. I was bored. I felt unmotivated to decorate the house we moved into recently. I felt disconnected. I wanted to do something for me. I decided I wasn’t going to wait around for my husband to come home before I could do something with my evening. I decided I didn’t need to spend loads of money and break the bank signing up to something that could fill my time. I decided I didn’t want to numb my brain with mundane TV (although that realisation happened about 5 years ago and I haven’t had a TV since!)
I needed a mid-week adventure!
I’ve always been outdoorsy (obviously! I’m an Ecotherapist!) and my work means I know how amazing nature is for our emotional health. So, I prescribed myself an evening every single week of outdoor fun! It could be on my own, it could be with friends, it could be with strangers. The only rule was, it had to be mid-week and I had to have a REALLY good excuse if I decided I didn’t want to do it.
So, here’s what I did!
I climbed a mountain. I took up running. I did yoga on the moors. I had a kayak lesson. I went wild swimming. I went for a picnic. I sat in a beer garden. I met alpacas. And I’m still going… every single week!
The benefits of adventures
I LOVE my mid-week adventures. They make me feel alive. They release endorphins, our feel-good hormones. I appreciate my time more. I relax. I breathe deeper. I use my brain in a fun, creative way and allow my focus and attention to calm. I connect with myself. I have space to think, to breathe and to develop and grow. I meet new people. I get closer to loved ones. I reflect. I emit positivity.
What can you do to bring all of those benefits into your life? What adventures can you go on? They don’t have to cost money. They don’t have to be miles away.
If you want some inspiration Alastair Humphries has a great concept called Microadventures. His philosophy is about the fact we work 9-5, but what about the 5-9 in between! Those are the moments for living! Check out his Microadventures website here, he also has a great book, full of ideas.
I can still hear a few of you…!
“I have kids, what am I supposed to do with them?!”
“Yes ,but I’m exhausted by Wednesday”
Involve the kids! Get them to plan the adventures! You could have tea in the garden, you could ride your bikes to go and get an icecream. You could walk home from school the long way so they can paddle in the river (with you!). Bring a blanket outside and watch the stars. Instead of thinking of limits, think of opportunities!
Having something to look forward to is good for you and build your happiness levels too! As Gretchen Rubin says:
“Anticipation is a key stage; by having something to look forward to, no matter what your circumstances, you bring happiness into your life well before the event actually takes place.”
Taking time out to do something fun refreshes you and brings joy, optimism, space for reflection and creative thinking and general just allows our stress hormones to chill out and our brain to come back down out of the clouds of everyday living.
Be empowered. YOU can choose what you do with YOUR LIFE. Enjoy it, have fun, be engaged, relax, LIVE.
If you’re ready to make your wellbeing a priority, come and join The Retreat, my online membership club. You’ll get access to guest experts to help you build relaxation into your everyday life in an easy and step by step way. You’ll get weekly live coaching training with me to work on your mindset. You’ll be part of an incredible community of like-minded women who will support you on your journey. Come and have a look.